Etiquette Don'ts

  • Don’t promote yourself.
  • Don’t name drop.
  • Don’t remind people of their humble origins.
  • Don’t boast about what you have.
  • Don’t snoop.
  • Don’t treat servants badly.
  • Don’t use a knife or a spoon when a fork will suffice.
  • Don’t use the word “mansion.”
  • Don’t ask someone their name, introduce yourself first.
  • Don’t call a professional or business person by first name unless you’ve been asked to do so.
  • Don’t use the title “Sir” with anyone of equal age and status, unless you don’t know his name.
  • Don’t address a waiter as “Sir.”
  • Don’t mumble.
  • Don’t smell bad.
  • Don’t wear cologne to cover the fact you haven’t bathed.
  • Don’t ask people if they remember you, introduce yourself.
  • Don’t say “Pleased to meet ya’!”
  • Don’t finish other people’s sentences.
  • Don’t contradict.
  • Don’t steal another woman’s husband.
  • Don’t turn your glass upside down, if you don’t want to drink.
  • Don’t blow your nose or pick your nail or teeth in public.
  • Don’t forget to polish your shoes and boots.
  • Don’t slouch.
  • Don’t stare.
  • Don’t point.
  • Don’t scratch or rub any part of your body.
  • Don’t bolt without notice.
  • Don’t brown-nose superiors.
  • Don’t shake hands with a woman until she offers her hand.
  • Don’t sit with your chair resting on the back legs.
  • Don’t be self-conscious.
  • Don’t talk about your illnesses unless asked.
  • Don’t crack a joke at someone else’s expense.
  • Don’t interrupt.
  • Don’t bring up religious or political issues to be hostile.
  • Don’t keep looking at your watch.
  • Don’t talk in a high shrill voice.
  • Don’t drop final consonants.
  • Don’t use the word lady when you mean wife.
  • Don’t call women and men girls and boys if they vote.
  • Don’t say “yeh” for yes.
  • Don’t say between “you and I.”
  • Don’t announce that you’re “stuffed” or “through eating.”
  • Don’t misuse the words lady and gentleman.
  • Don’t scold family or employees in front of others.
  • Don’t order people around.
  • Don’t give unsolicited advice.
  • Don’t make dates you don’t intend to keep.
  • Don’t worry abut how you look during sex.
  • Don’t ever stalk a woman.
  • Don’t ever chase a man.
  • Don’t drink too much because you’ll stay too long.
  • Don’t bore people by talking about your last golf game.
  • Don’t break a date if something better comes along.
  • Don’t be a tease.
  • Don’t bad mouth your rival.
  • Don’t bad mouth your ex-employer or ex-spouse.
  • Don’t nag.
  • Don’t stiff people who work for you or wait on you.
  • Don’t rest elbows or hands on the table.
  • Don’t have different manners for different people.
  • Don’t double dip your chip or veggie in a dip.
  • Don’t say “Remember me?”
  • Don’t give unusual names to children, you may not like the nicknames.
  • Don’t marry a man you think you can change.
  • Don’t act like a loser.
  • Don’t split infinitives.
  • Don’t tell people what you’re not going to do.
  • Don’t tell people what you would have done.
  • Don’t get so big you forget where you come from.
  • Don’t waste time comparing yourself to others.
  • Don’t ask other people to do things for you that you can do yourself.
  • Don’t worry about things out of your control.
  • Don’t pretend you know something you don’t.
  • Don’t say you know someone you don’t really know.
  • Don’t use the truth to hurt someone.
  • Don’t ask the host who else will be at the party.
  • Don’t discuss family money or problems in public.
  • Don’t tip staff at a private club.
  • Don’t over set a dinner table to show off your treasures.
  • Don’t stand up if you’re being toasted.
  • Don’t use a toothpick at the table.
  • Don’t lay used flatware on the table.
  • Don’t take a drink if you have food in your mouth.
  • Don’t ever bring up someone’s weight unless asked for advice.
  • Don’t go after a taxi another person has hailed.
  • Don’t rise to the bait.
  • Don’t lecture.
  • Don’t send a store bought card instead of a personal note.
  • Don’t make the punishment harsher than the crime.
  • Don’t punish your children for the same addictions you have.
  • Don’t leave a party without thanking your host.
  • Don’t have a limp handshake.
  • Don’t shake hands for longer than three seconds.
  • Don’t talk with food in your mouth.
  • Don’t talk on a cell phone in public in a confined space----restaurant, bus, church, theater, elevator, airplane.
  • Don’t assume everyone shares your social, political or religious views.
  • Don’t make racial or homophobic remarks.
  • Don’t bed another club member’s spouse.
  • Don’t lean into your plate at the dinner table.
  • Don’t fold your napkin to make it look unused.
  • Don’t forget that you’re in charge of your life.
  • Don’t chew with your mouth open.
  • Don’t chew gum at social gatherings.