About the current rules for holiday office parties.
With the winner of the Time magazine person of the year the collective of women who have spoken out and are still speaking out about sexual assault and harassment, I feel a certain chill has come over Christmastime merrymaking.
Meanwhile predators are speaking up in denial sending a huge mixed message that some can get away with it while others cannot. What should we know when attending a Christmas office party?
–AD, Hoboken, NJ
- dress appropriately, meaning dress festively.
- remember that the holiday party is ruled by the good manners of the office.
- have good hygiene, you're not off the grid.
- turn off your cellphone.
- keep track of your alcohol intake.
- behave in a professional manner at all times.
- keep the vibes convivial, it is not the time for petty grievances, revenge, gossip or political debate.
- never bring a plus-one, SO, or spouse unless the invitation specifies that you can bring a guest. Guests don't bring guests -- and remember even at an office party, you are a guest.
- be sure to wear your name tag on the right side, because it will be more visible.
- try to keep your glass in your left hand to allow your freed right hand to shake hands.
- remember that people will be watching and taking notes, which is why you keep your hands to yourself.
- before departing, thank your host.
- remember that you never want to be the last person standing.
- report any sexual assault to #MeToo or #BalanceTonPorc.
- miss the office party or arrive too late -- even if you have to pay a babysitter extra or miss finishing a report.
- grope, grab, slap on the back, kiss or hug, without saying, for instance, "Can I give you a hug?"
- talk and eat at the same time because food can go shooting out of your mouth.
- drink too much.
- discuss work matters, unless your boss asks you a direct question.
- make a fool of yourself.
- take a call, but you can look for messages and go outside the party to text or return the call.
- forget to thank the host.
- Holiday gatherings are taking a low-keyed turn toward focusing on team building such as volunteering to work on community projects.
- Others are limiting the amount of alcohol by providing no more than two tickets for alcohol cocktails.
#Me Too #BalanceTonPorc