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Behavior to avoid when socializing:

  •  Don’t name drop.
  •  Don’t remind people of their humble origins.
  •  Don’t boast about what you have.
  •  Don’t snoop through other people’s things.
  •  Don’t treat the people who work for you disrespectfully.
  •  Don’t use a knife or a spoon when a fork will suffice.
  •  Don’t ask someone their name, introduce yourself first.
  •  Don’t call a professional or business person by first name unless you’ve been asked to do so.
  •  Don’t use the title “Sir” with anyone of equal age, unless you don’t know his name.
  •  Don’t mumble.
  •  Don’t smell bad.
  •  Don’t wear cologne to cover the fact you haven’t bathed.
  •  Don’t ask people if they remember you, introduce yourself.
  •  Don’t say “Pleased to meet cha’!”
  •  Don’t finish other people’s sentences.
  •  Don’t contradict.
  •  Don’t steal another woman’s husband.
  •  Don’t turn your glass upside down, if you don’t want to drink.
  •  Don’t blow your nose or pick at your nails or teeth in public.
  •  Don’t forget to polish your shoes and boots.
  •  Don’t slouch.
  •  Don’t stare.
  •  Don’t point.
  •  Don’t scratch or rub any part of your body.
  •  Don’t bolt without notice.
  •  Don’t brown-nose superiors.
  •  Don’t shake hands with a woman until she offers her hand.
  •  Don’t sit with your chair resting on the back legs.
  •  Don’t act self-consciously.
  •  Don’t talk about your illnesses unless asked.
  •  Don’t crack a joke at someone else’s expense.
  •  Don’t interrupt.
  •  Don’t bring up religious or political issues unless someone asks your opinion.
  •  Don’t keep looking at your watch or cellphone.
  •  Don’t talk in a high shrill voice.
  •  Don’t drop final consonants.
  •  Don’t call women and men girls and boys if they’re old enough to vote.
  •  Don’t say “yeh” for yes.
  •  Don’t say between “you and I.”
  •  Don’t announce that you’re “stuffed” or “through eating.”
  •  Don’t misuse the words lady and gentleman.
  •  Don’t scold family or employees in front of others.
  •  Don’t order people around.
  •  Don’t give unsolicited advice.
  •  Don’t make dates you don’t intend to keep.
  •  Don’t worry abut how you look during sex.
  •  Don’t ever stalk a woman.
  •  Don’t ever chase a man.
  •  Don’t drink too much because you’ll stay too long.
  •  Don’t bore people by talking about your health.
  •  Don’t break a date if something better comes along.
  •  Don’t be a tease.
  •  Don’t bad mouth your rival.
  •  Don’t bad mouth your former employer or former spouse.
  •  Don’t nag.
  •  Don’t stiff people who work for you or wait on you.
  •  Don’t rest elbows or hands on the table.
  •  Don’t have different manners for different people.
  •  Don’t double dip your chip or veggie in a dip.
  •  Don’t say “Remember me?”
  •  Don’t give unusual names to children, you may not like the nicknames.
  •  Don’t marry a man you think you can change.
  •  Don’t tell people what you’re not going to do.
  •  Don’t tell people what you would have done.
  •  Don’t get so big you forget where you came from.
  •  Don’t ask other people to do things for you that you can do yourself.
  •  Don’t pretend you know someone you don’t.
  •  Don’t say you know someone you don’t really know.
  •  Don’t use the truth to hurt someone.
  •  Don’t ask the host who else will be at the party.
  •  Don’t discuss family money or problems in public.
  •  Don’t tip staff at a private club.
  •  Don’t overset a dinner table to show off your treasures.
  •  Don’t stand up if you’re being toasted.
  •  Don’t use a toothpick at the table.
  •  Don’t lay used flatware on the table while eating.
  •  Don’t take a drink if you have food in your mouth.
  •  Don’t ever bring up someone’s weight unless asked for advice.
  •  Don’t go after a taxi another person has hailed first.
  •  Don’t rise to the bait.
  •  Don’t lecture.
  •  Don’t make the punishment harsher than the crime.
  •  Don’t punish your children for the same addictions you have.
  •  Don’t leave a party without thanking your host.
  •  Don’t have a limp handshake.
  •  Don’t shake hands for longer than three seconds.
  •  Don’t talk with food in your mouth.
  •  Don’t talk on a cellphone in public in a confined public space—-restaurant, bus, church, theater, elevator, airplane.
  •  Don’t assume everyone shares your social, political or religious views.
  •  Don’t make racial or homophobic remarks.
  •  Don’t bed another club member’s spouse.
  •  Don’t lean into your plate at the dinner table.
  •  Don’t fold your napkin to make it look unused.
  •  Don’t chew with your mouth open.
  •  Don’t chew gum at social gatherings.

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